Therapy for Those in Intimate Relationships
Support for your relationship
Therapy can support intimate partners in healing relationship wounds, fostering feelings of safety and trust in the relationship, and restructuring unhelpful patterns of interaction so to allow each person to exist in a way that honours the relational bond as well as their personal authenticity.
As a systemic therapist, I consider how your experiences in the relationship and as individuals influence how you show up in the relationship, and subsequent patterns of interactions among partners. I attune to how context (e.g. relationships, culture, society; past and present) influences experience.
In my work with clients, the problem is the problem; it is not who one person is but instead, is something the relationship unit is teaming up against. The relationship is viewed as a system, which means everyone engaging in therapy has a responsibility to work towards therapeutic change.
Please note that currently, I do not have any capacity to work with clients who are at high risk. That is, those experiencing recent (in the last 3 months) or current Intimate partner violence and/or domestic violence, current active suicidal ideation/attempts.
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My Approach
An important note.
A common misconception is that couple's therapy is and should be a "last resort".
Subsequently, many partners do their relationship and themselves a disservice by waiting until things have "blown up" to seek therapy. At this point, they react out of a place of desperation and urgency and hope that therapy will be a quick, saving grace.
Favorable outcomes are correlated with therapy for the purposes of proactivity and maintenance.
This is not to say that couple's therapy cannot be helpful even if it is a last resort. With that, what you should know is:
Couple's therapy is a PROCESS that requires commitment, time, and patience.
The basics
I work collaboratively with you to identify and understand:
- where your relationship currently is, and how this came to be
- where you want your relationship to be: how you want to experience yourselves and each other in the relationship
- what might be getting in the way, and IF and how you can navigate these challenges in alignment with your personal and relationship values