Therapy can support intimate partners in healing relationship wounds, fostering feelings of safety and trust in the relationship, and restructuring unhelpful patterns of interaction so to allow each person to exist in a way that honours the relational bond as well as their personal authenticity.
As a systemic therapist, I consider how your experiences in the relationship and as individuals influence how you show up in the relationship, and subsequent patterns of interactions among partners. I attune to how context (e.g. relationships, culture, society; past and present) influences experience.
In my work with clients, the problem is the problem; it is not who one person is but instead, is something the relationship unit is teaming up against. The relationship is viewed as a system, which means everyone engaging in therapy has a responsibility to work towards therapeutic change.
Please note that currently, I do not have any capacity to work with clients who are at high risk. That is, those experiencing recent (in the last 3 months) or current Intimate partner violence and/or domestic violence, current active suicidal ideation/attempts.
A common misconception is that couple's therapy is and should be a "last resort".
Subsequently, many partners do their relationship and themselves a disservice by waiting until things have "blown up" to seek therapy. At this point, they react out of a place of desperation and urgency and hope that therapy will be a quick, saving grace.
Favorable outcomes are correlated with therapy for the purposes of proactivity and maintenance.
This is not to say that couple's therapy cannot be helpful even if it is a last resort. With that, what you should know is:
Couple's therapy is a PROCESS that requires commitment, time, and patience.
I work collaboratively with you to identify and understand:
Attachment & Intimacy
Relationship Ambivalence (e.g. proceed or end?)
Communication and Conflict
Relationship Trauma (e.g. broken trust)
Dynamics of Power
Racial Identity (BIPOC)
Gender and Sexuality (LGBTQ2IA+)
Intercultural relationships (e.g. interracial, interethnic, interfaith)
Adjusting to expected and unexpected, welcomed and unwelcomed changes:
Pregnancy and Parenting
Relationship Ruptures/Breakups (e.g. Divorce)
Family of Origin (In-Laws)
Stress (work related stress, financial stress, etc.)
Experiences of subjugation, oppression, marginalization, dehumanization, brutality, & criminalization inflicted on you (and your communities and ancestral lines) because of your identities and ways of being
Internalized "-isms" & "-phobias"
Anger, Anxiety, Fear, Grief
Emotion Processing and Regulation (self and co-regulation)
My standard rate is $165+HST per 50 minutes. For payment, I require a card to be uploaded to your secure electronic file, and bill you directly. You would be able to submit receipts to your insurance company if they cover services offered by a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying).
Session length is determined by therapeutic benefit, therapy goals, and client preferences. Sessions can range from 50 to 80 mins, at a pro-rated price.
I have a 48 hour late cancellation and late reschedule policy. The full session fee is applied to no-shows and sessions cancelled or rescheduled with less than 48 hours notice.